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CHISME/GOSSIP
CONNIE-— MY
COMADRE
Connie, my comadre, always
has the answers. Why shouldn't she? She's had sixty-eight years on this
earth. She has been married 49 years, has four children, eleven
grandchildren, two daughters-in-law, an ex-daughter-in-law and two
sons-in-law . Connie has seen it all. She has gone through all the trials
and tribulations of marriage, bearing children, seeing them all through
college, seeing the grandchildren off to college and baby-sitting the last
of the newborns. Squeezed into
this hectic life, she manages to have at least eight comadres, numerous friends, travels, golf's on a
weekly basis and bowls. She is
curious, loves to shop, and finds numerous things for hubby to do, so he
won't notice what she's up to. Most importantly, she loves to have the
answer to almost any question you may have.
Readers, send Connie
questions on marriage, children, in-laws, sex, grandchildren, etc.
She will have an answer to your dilemma, almost immediately.
My Comandre Connie has all the answers!
 Submit your questions
here to:
Connie@cafeconchisme.com |
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Dear Connie:
I’m so glad you came along.
I can’t seem to talk to mom, dad or grandma.
I’m
so happy that I have an adult I
can share some of my feeling and maybe get some advice.
Here’s my dilemma.
I’ll be fifteen next May.
My parents were born in Mexico . They came to the
U.S. as young adults. Grandma
lives with us too and were a very close family.
I love grandma dearly. However,
a few months ago, my parents and grandma started planning my "Quinceniera ".
I didn't know what a Quinceniera was until last year.
When your fifteen in Mexico , your parents give you a “coming out' party.
I guess it like a “welcome to becoming a young lady"
A Quinceniera is quite a big event, I understand,
but I don't want one – it’s not me.
I attend school with very few
Hispanics and they just won't understand about this tradition.
In addition, it will
cost my parents a lot of money. It
is not that I’m ashamed of
my culture, it's just that I
would rather save that money for college.
What
do I do? ... My parents don't understand?
Sincerely,
Catherine
Valdez
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Dear Catherine:
I know where you're coming from.
My granddaughter went to high school with a diverse student body
and recently she attended a friend’s Quinceniera .
She came home and said, “do
I have to have a Quinceniera since we're of Mexican descent?"
Her mom, dad, grandpa and I said, "of course not, Quincenieras
are not one of the customs we follow in our family, however, if it had
been, that would have been up to you."
I suggest
you get your mom, dad, and
grandma together. Express
your feelings. Tell them
you know they love you and want to give you something to show they are
proud of the young lady you have
become, but it is something that you don't feel you need or want.
Tell them you are proud of
your culture, but you would rather have a family party with your sisters,
brother, uncles and aunts and that the money
they were going to spend could go towards your college fund and you
would make them more proud by graduating from college.
See how that works and let me know.
Your Comandre,
Connie
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